Integrating your children in society
By – Staff Writer
(This article is based on my own personal observations)
Who builds a child’s mind? Is the factor of higher education regarded as the ultimate fulfillment? Do you have intervention over your own children given societal defiance? The challenge of developing and building the future adult is where personality, the foremost criteria for self-confidence, is formed. Parents shape a child’s personality. Personality is built and the family structure forms what the child becomes as an adult. In this sphere, the child learns how to communicate assertively or not, learns to be confident or not, and has inhibitions or not. In essence, the child learns to communicate the way you communicate with them, regardless of age.
A detriment towards the attitude of higher education being at the forefront is the lack of cultural and informational guidance. Faced with aspirations of higher education and adapting to economic conditions in view of unemployment, cultural and informational guidance has been devalued. The perception of material gain as it equates to educational intelligence produces guidance strategies that lead to an antisocial impact. This creates not only changes in attitudes, beliefs, values, and behaviors, but family tensions requiring psychological assistance.
Communication and interaction between family members have a huge impact on family stability. The family’s communication system and the development environment of the child in the formative years is an indispensable factor for normal development of the child. The actions of one member of the family reflect upon the behavior of others. There is a fundamental dependence on human interaction and process between individuals. The largest impact is communication between parents and children. Children learn to communicate how you communicate with each other and how you communicate with them. Partners are mutually influenced, so the adaptation of those effects with regards to confrontation, or their evaluation of each other, through correcting or feedback also play a role in the behavioral effects of the child.
Disruption of the relationship of the couple can result in interdependency issues. In the case of a lack of conjugal relations, adaptive changes occur whereby the child’s relationship with one parent replaces communication with the spouse. This leads to hyper-protective behavior, limiting initiative, the child is given everything, and enabling dependency. The child who is dependent will have a negative self-image and can experience separation anxiety – a state of unjustified fear, tension, and anxiety.
Socialization and identification from outside influences can alienate the child from the family environment especially with age-specific issues. The child’s personality in terms of the development of moral skills and beliefs is meant to facilitate their integration in society. Age-specific issues can cause a fragile disposition, resulting in a loss of control and authority over the child. On the educational side, priority is given more to good students and neglecting the unteachable. A reaction of frustration and anti-social behavior emerges disrupting the learning rhythm.
In identifying the factors that support the social and emotional development of the child, those that prevent children from integration and social development, and the importance of the family’s role in raising and development of the child, an examination of the family environment in which the children grow and develop and how they establish relationships with others is imperative. Needless to say, a harmonious and educationally stimulating family environment has positive effects on the social adaptability on children; and families that are disorganized and has a disruptive family environment has negative effects socially.
In shaping a child’s behavior the major influences that affect behavioral disorders are aggression, lying, and theft. Communication with regard to the interpersonal relationship with the child inhibiting self-expression leads to passive-aggressive behavior. In the absence of receptivity, there is no resolve, leading to forms of ill-disposed anger.
The family plays the most important part in the prevention and occurrence of behavioral disorders. Complications are primarily due to improper family environment and secondly by the intellectual level regarding personality. The key to successful integration in society is less broken homes, less mental abandonment, and more stability and security. Both parents teaching with the same goals and a unified front are the building blocks for the new generations to cope with the challenges of development brought by society.